There is nothing wrong with walking a path of self discovery or fulfillment. I actually highly recommend giving yourself that gift. To discover who you are without having to do that with anyone. However, there might come a time in your life when you feel you are ready to not only live your own life, but create one with someone else.
I cannot tell you how many times I've seen guys post the status "nice guys finish last," "always in the friend zone," and things of that nature. It's true, nice guys finish last but I've also seen a ton of 'nice girls' finish in exactly the same way.
I'm going to be straight up when I say I think there are more expectations placed on women in the dating world than there are on men. Any more, it seems like a guy wants you to look like Miranda Kerr, have the wit of Emma Stone, and the cooking ability of Rachel Rae. I've got 2/3. It's a shame I can't cook better. -Katie's Girl Code.
IN ALL SERIOUSNESS
I talked with a girl awhile ago who told me one time she got dumped by a boy who told her, "You are the perfect girl, just not the perfect girl for right now." I'm sorry, I didn't think perfection ever ran out. I thought perfect was perfect whether it was today or ten months from now. I think guys want the perks of having a girlfriend without having to ever make a real commitment. I'm going to let all of you boys in on a fun, little fact: "When you walk out of her life, you better understand you just created a path for someone better to walk in." Amazing, beautifully souled girls don't happen a lot anymore. Whether it's society, the less traditional mindset of our generation, or just the changing times...nice, wholesome, genuine, unique, 'neat', and conservative girls are hard to find. Yet, this guy turned her away because, when it came down to it, wasn't ready to make that type of commitment.
Now, I'm not condoning leading someone on, but I do have an issue with guys entering into relationships when they have no business doing so in the first place. Maybe he wasn't ready or just too scared, but there will come a time when he is ready....and when that time comes he's going to regret letting go of something that is so hard to find.
The whole moral of this long winded, yet sometimes comical rant, is that I challenge the young men in my life to seek out and hold dear the rare qualities in women that are so hard to find. They also need to realize that great girls deserve great love and if they aren't 100% ready to make a serious commitment to a great girl, then they shouldn't even try to begin to.
They need to open their eyes to the possibilities of what they desire in a partner, realistically gage the level of commitment they are willing to give, and that every action has a consequence.
Always remember, you let an amazing girl go, chances are she'll find someone who makes her glad you did.
