Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time.

I've had my heart broken a few times. I've had to leave those I love a few times. I've been sad a few times and I've wondered 'why me' a few times.

I'm here to tell you your thoughts and attitudes about the rough patches in your life are more than half the battle.

I saw this quote someone posted and I felt it very fitting for this time in my life.

"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time."

They are completely right. It doesn't take a lot of work to fall into a hole and stay there. However, it does take a conscious effort to make yourself better and climb back out.

I've started my climb! If you don't have anyone in your life to do extra special little things to make your day..SO WHAT..you don't need someone to do that...YOU CAN! Here are some nice things I do for myself and if you're going through a hard time, I suggest you take the time to do the same.

1-I give myself cute little presents to remind my mind and heart things that I forget some times when I am sad.

Surround yourself with positive words of wisdom. I looked in the mirror and said, "you are so beautiful (with meaning)" and I was so surprised that the reflection I saw was of this [beautiful girl] with a HUGE SMILE. Don't forget to compliment yourself! It means just as much coming from yourself as it does from someone else!

2-DO THE THINGS YOU LOVE! What better way to laugh, smile, and warm your heart than to do the very things that cause it!?

I have been into singing songs lately in my computer room. I do it all the time. Mostly just anything and everything by Elton John or feel good songs like "Man I Feel Like A Woman".

3-Your life isn't that stupid book you had to read in 5th grade "The Other Side of the Mountain" or whatever that was. DO NOT BE A HERMIT! GET OUT AND DO STUFF! If your friends can't come GO BY YOURSELF! It's important that you stay busy! Also, you can waste a lot of your present by fretting over the hurt of the past! God has given you an amazing gift [life] and it is your job not to take advantage of that! It's ok to be sad, but you also need to know when you need to work on being happy! I've made some of the best friends I've ever had in just a few short months and have made so many wonderful memories.

I'm hoping for a repeat of this girls night this weekend. To' up from the Flo' up. Nuff' said.

4-Do nice things for others. Take your spare time and do something constructive with it. If you know someone else is hurting just as much as you are...hold out that hand. [make their day]..you might just end up making your own:)

5-Work hard. Focus on school or work or even start a project! You have interests! So pursue them!




6-Last but not least, GET INSPIRED! Whether it's by other people, facebook, reading quotes online, starting a good book. LEARN TO FEEL EXCITED AGAIN!

Things aren't going to be all hunky dory over night! It's going to take awhile to get better and a while to be a little less sad, but it's not something you can just wish away. You need to be brave, pick yourself up, and do something for yourself. This isn't a passive process. This takes thought, time, and energy. I will promise you this though [it will be worth it].

A happy, more beautiful, more adjusted [you]...what's not to love?

*disclaimer*

Friends, alcohol, ice cream, more alcohol, more ice cream, and burning things usually helps a little too.

Keep that chin up! No one else is going to hold it up for you!

"Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.”-Confucius

Ahhh, Revenge. A tale as old as time.

Tonight ABC premiered a new show called 'Revenge' starring Emily VanCamp that was about...drum roll please..............................................

TA-DA-Revenge! (Does the name give it away?)

It has a pretty standard plot so far (I'm only an episode in...but just sayin'). It's the story of a girl who was wronged in her past, because of this injustice, had horrible teen years, finds out she is rich, that her dad isn't the low life she thought he was, and decides to take 'revenge' on everyone that has ruined his life, as well as hers.

The saying, "Oh what a tangled web we weave,when first we practise to deceive! " Is a pretty fitting statement when it comes to this show. I feel there is going to be a lot of back stories, a lot of jumping around in time when it comes to the plot, perhaps some inter-character conflict between choosing to be good or evil, and a lot of steamy hook-ups(let's face it, there is definitely some man candy for your viewing pleasure). These people are rich and beautiful. Did I mention it takes place in the Hamptons?

I can't wait to see the story unfold and watch her ruin lives. Will Emily Thorn's secret identity be revealed? Will she fall in love with her childhood sweet heart Jack? In doing so, forgoing a life of revenge and hate for one of love and forgiveness?

Only time will tell! It's definitely worth checking into!

HUMBURGER HELPER=OWNED

Alright, I'm a big fan of Hamburger Helper, but this stuff was AMAZING! How can Velveta get better you ask? I'll tell you...put in a box and make it a skillet dinner. Hey all you college kids...check these out!

Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead.

"Someone once said to write well, you have to write what you know."

This is what I know.

About two and a half months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. I feel when we lose someone to break up we go through stages of grief. First you're angry, maybe you don't understand, but as clarity sets in so does reality. You must entertain two options when you lose someone. One, that life comes full circle and they will once again be a part of your life, or two, that you lose them forever. It is the finality of the latter that makes losing someone so hard.

I'm dealing with the latter.

I talked to him today, told him that I missed him, and that I was sorry. He was very kind, but in fewer words or less, I was told that I was not missed (something which I knew) I knew he didn't want to be with me. Having to deal with this has brought up a few thoughts that have been very hard for my heart to feel and to process.

1-I was someone he could leave and be ok with it

2-It's made me question who I am as a person and a partner to someone

3-It's made me fear that I will never be with someone who really understands me for every bit of who I am

4-Is it possible that he doesn't miss me because there was nothing worth missing?

5-Missing somone is so hard, but missing someone who doesn't miss you back is even worse.

I've always felt that anyone would be lucky to be with me..that I am amazing and wonderful but now i'm starting to question that. What do I need to change to become a better version of myself? And once I figure that out, will I be able to change it? I hope that I am able learn from this and am able to make those changes in the future.

It is my hope that one day there is someone that can look at the complexities of my heart and smile. I feel the only person I really relate to, the only person who understands me, is my 50 yr old father. I'm really mature for my age and some times it hurts me as much as it helps me. I've been told by boys that I'm the kind of girl you marry, not date but it almost is never said as a compliment. It's more so said as something people are intimidated by instead of something that's celebrated.

I believe in love. I love love, but for now i'm tagging out. I'm a firm believer in healing yourself, and making yourself happy and that's exactly what I plan on doing. Up until this point my heart hasn't wanted to let go, but after today I will. There is a reason some people go, and a reason why some people stay, and ultimately God knows who the ones that are supposed to stay are.

Some things i'll leave you with:

-love is a fragile thing, take care of it

-maybe if someone is willing to say goodbye to you, they aren't worth your heart

-you're gonna hurt, it's gonna hurt....if it takes you longer to heal than expected be kind and patient with yourself

-learn from your mistakes

-give yourself time to get back to who you were before them or where you want to be after them

-If there is such a thing as the 'right person' or the 'perfect fit' then it's worth waiting for

And most importantly,

Never give up on love because although things might be hard, it'll never give up on you.

You'll have the love life you want when you are ready.

"Don't pray to God to put someone in your life, pray to him to be ready for when someone comes."

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