Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time.

I've had my heart broken a few times. I've had to leave those I love a few times. I've been sad a few times and I've wondered 'why me' a few times.

I'm here to tell you your thoughts and attitudes about the rough patches in your life are more than half the battle.

I saw this quote someone posted and I felt it very fitting for this time in my life.

"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time."

They are completely right. It doesn't take a lot of work to fall into a hole and stay there. However, it does take a conscious effort to make yourself better and climb back out.

I've started my climb! If you don't have anyone in your life to do extra special little things to make your day..SO WHAT..you don't need someone to do that...YOU CAN! Here are some nice things I do for myself and if you're going through a hard time, I suggest you take the time to do the same.

1-I give myself cute little presents to remind my mind and heart things that I forget some times when I am sad.

Surround yourself with positive words of wisdom. I looked in the mirror and said, "you are so beautiful (with meaning)" and I was so surprised that the reflection I saw was of this [beautiful girl] with a HUGE SMILE. Don't forget to compliment yourself! It means just as much coming from yourself as it does from someone else!

2-DO THE THINGS YOU LOVE! What better way to laugh, smile, and warm your heart than to do the very things that cause it!?

I have been into singing songs lately in my computer room. I do it all the time. Mostly just anything and everything by Elton John or feel good songs like "Man I Feel Like A Woman".

3-Your life isn't that stupid book you had to read in 5th grade "The Other Side of the Mountain" or whatever that was. DO NOT BE A HERMIT! GET OUT AND DO STUFF! If your friends can't come GO BY YOURSELF! It's important that you stay busy! Also, you can waste a lot of your present by fretting over the hurt of the past! God has given you an amazing gift [life] and it is your job not to take advantage of that! It's ok to be sad, but you also need to know when you need to work on being happy! I've made some of the best friends I've ever had in just a few short months and have made so many wonderful memories.

I'm hoping for a repeat of this girls night this weekend. To' up from the Flo' up. Nuff' said.

4-Do nice things for others. Take your spare time and do something constructive with it. If you know someone else is hurting just as much as you are...hold out that hand. [make their day]..you might just end up making your own:)

5-Work hard. Focus on school or work or even start a project! You have interests! So pursue them!




6-Last but not least, GET INSPIRED! Whether it's by other people, facebook, reading quotes online, starting a good book. LEARN TO FEEL EXCITED AGAIN!

Things aren't going to be all hunky dory over night! It's going to take awhile to get better and a while to be a little less sad, but it's not something you can just wish away. You need to be brave, pick yourself up, and do something for yourself. This isn't a passive process. This takes thought, time, and energy. I will promise you this though [it will be worth it].

A happy, more beautiful, more adjusted [you]...what's not to love?

*disclaimer*

Friends, alcohol, ice cream, more alcohol, more ice cream, and burning things usually helps a little too.

Keep that chin up! No one else is going to hold it up for you!