A friend of mine came up with this and posted it on facebook the other day. Ever since I read it, it's been something I've been pondering.
Number one, I'm a plan person. Planning is what I do best. I even try to plan my life, every detail, all of it. As you all my know that even our best laid plans do not work out and that despite our best efforts life takes us where it wants us to go without really asking our opinions. So when I saw the word plan in this quote I found new meaning in the word.
I think a good synonym for the word plan in this quote should be devotion. It's not talking about plan in the sense you plan on being with someone for X amount of years, it's not saying you plan on moving here with this person or going there with this person, it's not saying you plan on spending your forever with this person. What it's saying is staying in love, cultivating real love, and taking care of that love requires you to plan on being devoted to another. An active thought process in which you continually think (plan) on how best to love that person. A day by day, week by week effort. One which is constantly changing, evolving, and growing. Bottom line, if you don't plan on persistently applying your best efforts in a relationship through thought, words, and above all actions, then what's the use?
It is true, sometimes there is an unexplainable and underlying connection you make with another. A rare connection that you do not find with many but that's only the beginning. Anything good in your life takes hard work to attain or sustain. Love is no different. If you've been given the amazing gift of finding this connection then don't lay down and become indolent. We take advantage of relationships in our lives assuming that they're always going to be there....until one day they aren't. I tell everyone to ask themselves if they are a blessing in every life they touch. If the answer is no in some cases, then they need to figure out how to become one.
People always say that the love in the movies doesn't exist. It's just a movie. You're filling your head with hopeless thoughts and unrealistic ideas. I don't buy it. Love is something you create. It's not that this love doesn't exist, it's that all too often these days no one wants to put in the effort to create this love. Astonishing, soulful, once in a lifetime, kind of love. How hard would it be to buy a birthday cake, light candles, and sit on a kitchen table for some one's birthday? How hard would it be to dance in the middle of a street on your way home from a date? How hard would it be to stand outside some one's window with a boom-box playing a love song? Or taking a night and helping them check things off on their bucket list? I'll answer it for you, not hard at all. You have the chance to create something beautiful and then share that with someone. Love is simply, understanding how to best love the person you love. Love like this takes a plan. A thoughtful plan of devotion, diligence, and effort.
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