My friend Joe posted this on facebook today. I read it and immediately knew I had to write about it. Every now and then words come along that describe a perfect emotion, thought, or memory and when that happens don't just let them go...share them.
These words had an impact on me because they did just that (brought me to my memories). Here's what I think about this quote.
When we intend to do good, we do. When we intend to do harm, it happens.
There have been times in my life when I've wanted nothing but to do good and sadly, there have been times in my life where I have used my words or actions to hurt another-with the intent of doing just that [hurting someone].
But what I really loved about this quote was the last part.
What we owe to ourselves and everyone around is to examine the reasons of our true intent.
Growing up is so difficult. Trying to act mature and be an adult is so hard when your capacity to do and be so says otherwise. I look back on those times of spite, jealousy, bad behavior, and sitting here in this moment would do anything to go back and change the way I acted and handled the situation. Why did I feel I had to behave that way? In 9/10 times it was because I was hurt and had no other way to handle it. I wanted to hurt someone else because they hurt me. The whole 'who can hit hardest scenario.'----and the worst part about this is [it usually involved someone that I loved]. I think we tend to hurt those people the most.
I was very aware of these lessons before those words came along but what this quote did for me was to put those lessons into words. I would encourage everyone and anyone to read this quote, write it down, or copy and paste it into a journal. I feel it is the mark of a beautiful individual who can think before they act and ultimately not do damage to relationships that are important to them. I'd also strongly recommend working on communication. It is so hard for me to talk about how I feel OUT LOUD I hate it..I'd rather pull my teeth out. BUT this is such an important skill and one that you will always need to have healthy relationships in all areas of your life.
I hope others read this and can learn from my mistakes. Take the high road always no matter how hurt, angry, or the amount of alcohol you've consumed haha. Examine the intent of your actions or words. Is your intent a noble one? Or is it one of selfishness? If it's the latter, then your cause is unjust.
If your emotions are too much to handle. Try to put a face on them. Think about it for a second. Why is it bothering you so much? What's inclining you to act out? Can you change it? Can you make it better? If you can't change it, can you change the way you think about it?
I'd suggest doing any of these before you say something you can't take back. Once those words leave your mouth they are gone forever. Not only are they irrevocable, they leave an imprint on the soul of the person you say them to.
Be kind always, even in your times of hurt. If you make mistakes, apologize for them whole heartedly, forgive yourself, and try to do better the next time. 'Trying' to be a good person is all we can do. When things like this come around (e.g., that quote) it makes our trying a little bit easier. Open your eyes, open your mind, and become a better you.
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